I am happy to announce that next spring, I am finally getting a little sister. My brother proposed to the most wonderful woman, Rachel, and we can’t wait to welcome her into our crazy family.
Rachel is the founder of An Eventful Life. Her new blog feature is Wedding Wednesdays. She is looking for “words of wisdom from a Mrs. to a future Mrs.”. So, my neighborhood moms group came together to offer advice and display our wedding photos.
Modhousewife – June 5, 2004
Wedding Advice: The week of the wedding, have a date night. Relax, eat some good food and DON’T talk about the wedding.
Marriage Advice: Always have date nights to reconnect has a couple….leave work and kids at the door. Plus, add an element of surprise;)
Jenni – August 6, 2005
Wedding Advice: Delegate!! And officially let go of anxieties and expectations the day before. What will be will be, and you want to remember all the fun and laughter that filled your day, even if the cake implodes! You don’t want to look back and think, “gosh, that was a very stressful day!!”
Marriage Advice: Let’s go with… Love is dynamic … The love you feel today will be different from the love feel 5, 10, 15 years from now. That’s ok! You choose to continue falling in love with the same person over and over as you grow and build a life together! Also, if you have kids, let dad be on bath and bedtime duty from the beginning. An awesome way for him to bond and build special rituals with your child(ren) and a nice nightly break for you!
Tricia – May 26, 2001
Marriage Advice: Don’t do anything the first year of marriage that you don’t want to continue the rest of your marriage. Don’t set unrealistic expectations from the beginning.
Stacy – July 30, 2005
Wedding Advice: Get a king size bed!
Marriage Advice: Get a king size bed!
Jen – September 30, 2000
Wedding Advice: DO NOT diet/take diet pills or supplements or do anything that will make you drastically lose weight the couple months before your wedding. Even with all the dress fittings, your weight is not consistent, partially due to stress. Combine the two & when it’s go-time and the dress does not fit you. The most important dress of your life is too big, you will regret it forever.
Also, your wedding day will go by in the blink of an eye. For all the months of preparation, it’s all over in a matter of hours. Tell yourself to mentally capture each moment like watching your sisters walk up the aisle instead of fussing with yourself before your big moment. Enjoy & actually LIVE the day because there’s not much you can change on the wedding day itself – if something is going to be a wreck that’s just going to happen anyway. It’s you & your hub’s day no matter what the flowers end up looking like.
Marriage Advice: Embrace each others’ differences. It actually took me a while to really understand that my dear husband (let’s call him DH) simply does not need nor want to surround himself with friends & people out all the time, like I am inclined to do. Conversely, he didn’t get why I wanted to go somewhere with ‘other people’ every weekend. The old marriage advice stands: do not think you can change your spouse once you are married. When I finally got that about DH, we both looked for ways to compromise so we both felt like our needs were met.
Diana – May 15, 2009
Wedding Advice: Don’t party so late you miss your flight to Jamaica!
Marriage Advice: And to use that advice and carry it through, never stop having fun!!!!
Michelle – June 15, 2002
Wedding Advice: Hire the best photographer to capture the candid moments. The day will go so fast. Take a moment to sit back and take it all in. Watch your guest enjoying themselves and dance the night away.
Marriage Advice: Keep date nights and don’t go to bed angry (that advice was given to us by a couple married 55 yrs). So true.
Kat – September 20, 1997
Wedding Advice: Hire a photographer you really like, because I hate my wedding pictures!
Marriage Advice: Ask yourself, “Is it better to be right or be loved?” I’d like to add the caveat that it’s even better to be funny!
Jacinta – December 31, 2002
Wedding Advice: Enjoy yoursel! Don’t spend all of your time saying hello to every guest on your list (trust me, some of these people you won’t talk to in 10 years). So make the most of the night with your family and friends. Also, something won’t go right, but just let it go and have FUN!!!
Marriage advice: Get in the habit of giving each other compliments. I think men need them just as much as women; and we all need a cheerleader in life, be that person to your husband. Also, always say “I love you.” Three simple words, but a great habit! We say it before bed, before leaving the house, when we get off the phone, and now our kids say it too. It always adds perspective when you are angry or sad and hear those words.
Shelly – January 28, 2007
Wedding Advice: Relax, enjoy every moment, and be okay if everything does not go quite as planned.
Marriage Advice: Always remember that love is more than a feeling. Love is a verb and requires action.
Brett & Rachel,
I hope you both have fun reading all the wedding and marriage advice. Enjoy your engagement and the whole family is looking forward to the big day!
Love Your Big Sister